CONTRACEPTIVES: Whose Responsibility? Man Or Woman?

I am sure we all know what contraceptives is used for. To prevent unwanted pregnancy and protect against sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD’s), right?

I find in my own little experience and following some few studies that a significant number of  sexually active young Nigerians do not use or know the first thing about contraceptives, apart from the CONDOM. But what happens when the condom breaks or when you forego it use? The PILL naturally should come to mind.

Forget about educated some women are, how good they look or how well they paint their face, you’ll be amazed by the number of women who are clueless about the pill and their bodies. Some women have never heard of the pill not to talk about knowing the side effect like bloating, irregular cycle and so on.

Some women perceive walking into a pharmacy to ask of the pill as an embarrassment but I feel it just shows you are responsible. If a guy can walk into a pharmacy to get condoms so why can’t a lady too?

But really whose responsibility is it to get the contraceptive? The man’s or the woman’s? Most of my male friends would say beyond the condom, it is the lady’s responsibility. But what happens to those who don’t use or can’t use? They still have sex, don’t they? When they are done they pull up and leave, but what happens? Do the women know if they are definitely “SAFE” “or do they go and take the “PILL” or do they “PRAY” that fertilization does not occur and that nothing has been transmitted?

In most cases, contraceptive methods are controlled by one partner, but doesn’t mean both partners shouldn’t participate in the decision of what contraception to use.

The point is anyone who has sexual activity that may result in pregnancy, and who is interested in recreation but not procreation, has a responsibility for bringing contraception. If you are having sex, have sex responsibly, get educated about contraceptives and use them properly, no excuses. Men should be supportive and understand that it takes two to tango, proper research should be done by both parties and an agreement reached.

“Disaster sex can strike quickly and without warning. Remain calm, be patient and put your plan into action.”  

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