Managing Your Religion & Your Marriage

Building a relationship with God is as important as building a good marital relationship, but what happens when the person we truly love practices a different religion?

In the New Testament of the bible, the savior asks us to love one another. In fact, the exact phrase "love one another" appears 11 times in the New Testament. Loving others feels like a commandment that is easy to keep - that is, until we discover that our new husband's family doesn't celebrate Christmas  - our favorite holiday - or doesn't agree with us on deeper religious values.

Here are some few questions to ask oneself  to know if you'd be able to manage your partner's religion before getting married.


 CAN I RESPECT MY PARTNER'S POINT OF VIEW ?
 This is a major question to put into consideration. You should be able to respect one another's point of view and remember that religion is a personal choice. The other person's beliefs should be respected and not insulted in order to build a strong foundation.

CAN I DEVELOP A CORE, CENTRAL THEME?
Often, if you take a minutes to delve into the underlying themes of most religions, you'll find out that they have a central line of thought that focuses on morality and goodness -- the golden rule that helps govern the way you live your life. Although, you are practicing different religion, you can find similarities on what religion means to you as a spiritual couple. Just as the saying goes that both Christians and Muslims worship the same God.

CAN WE AVOID FAMILY PRESSURE?
Whether you like it or not, pressure will come most especially form the husband's family. Even though modern times have allowed for a more open-minded approach to relationships, especially when marrying outside of your religion. But what happens when your family hasn't caught up with the times? (most especially Yoruba homes where culture & religion are valued).

CAN WE HANDLE THE CHILDREN CAREFULLY?
This is another major question to put into consideration. If you have build your relationship on tolerance and respect, parlay that into communicating what you want religiously for your children and compromise with what your spouse wants. Make a plan and stick to it. Don't leave the children confuse making them believe one religion is inferior to the other. You can have your kids attend different places of worship on alternating weekends, or perhaps you will keep them informed and educated about both religions and eventually let them choose their own path.

If our answer to the above question is YES, then we can go ahead with someone who practices a different religion, but if  NO i'll kindly advice same religion relationship.




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